This is a very difficult time for families and a calm, compassionate person is needed to aid them in completing arrangements.  I personally have had the experience of working with a Funeral establishment. I have had close family members who have and I have assisted. Once I completed your online form a professional had gotten back to me the very next day. 

I have had two experiences with planning a funeral this was my fathers, and a aunt. In both cases I was there when both deaths happened and I know first hand the kind of pain a person can go through when they lose a loved one. Most of the time all you can do is listen and console them. I helped my mother pick the funeral home she wanted to handle everything.  We picked out the cherry wood casket as well as the suit he would wear.  I was able to pick out his flowers and the tie he would wear. I also helped with the flowers surrounding the area where his body was viewed. There were no limos because money was tight but we managed. But we did have a hearse take him to the cemetery of course. My mother had to be set up on a payment plan because my father had not left an insurance policy. The plot was picked out a few days prior to his burial.  I have a very compassionate heart and I feel I am very good at helping people at a time of need when things are difficult. You have to have allot of patience due to the circumstances and be willing to give them that emotional support when needed. This kind of job requires someone with a caring soul that truly cares for people.     

Dealing with the death of a loved one is a tragic happening that afflicts most everyone throughout the course of life, until eventually we become the tragic incident ourselves. When life forces us into situations where we have to deal with the “death” part of life, it’s hard. It’s emotionally hard, but everybody cares and everybody understands, so all you have to do is allow yourself time to grieve and everything will be alright. I know, I know, I’m here; it’s happened to me too. I was infuriated with a barrage of emotions when I lost someone close to me. It was at that time I made up my mind, and I don’t mind saying so, that I was going to help people cope with the unfortunate aspects of life, which we’re all walking so slowly towards anyway.

            Distant is how you’ll feel when you think of your loved one as being ‘lost’, so we should not consider them as actually being ‘lost’ and instead adopt a philosophy of “not believing in the possibility of death in the minds of something living,” by which I mean us. If you believe in that, as I do, then coping with the passage of another person’s essence is more easily acceptable, also, however; it helps you complete and displace some of the emotional wreckage that you’re likely to incur as a result of the subject at hand. Just coping with the acquirement of death in that manner of your life is otherwise wholly troublesome, though. So why subject yourself to denial and bargaining, it did nothing for me, and repeating it was the definition of insanity; when death was existent in my immediate life, I needed a new way to handle myself.

            An example of an impossibility of death in the minds of something living is simply, easily, probably in your day-to-day life if you listen to any artist who is no longer with us on earth. When listening to that music or sharing it or reflecting on those people’s lives, we are in a sense keeping them alive in our minds. Everything has a way it ought to appear, and this is the reality for death. The ones who are no longer with us in our physical everyday in actuality are here for us in our mental and emotional everyday.  If you have your memories or keepsakes from the person who has departed from your immediate reality, you can at least keep their memory alive within you. An easy way for you to incorporate a loved one into your day to day is to take on a behaviorism of that person. If they had admirable character perhaps for the rest of your life you can resemble that character. If they were dedicated to recycling, maybe you can take up the cause in that person’s honor. They do not simply have to be gone.

            Grieving is a part of the emotional process you undertake when the heavy stress of death begins to burden your life. It is up to you to direct traffic though, mourning is a necessity, but occasionally it can get excessive and begin to hinder the healing process in itself. If you lie in bed all day for a week or take a vacation or just take a few days off work, it’s all good as long as you acknowledge it somehow. You can’t avoid it though; you need to have a way to cope with the reality. Drink a warm cup of tea and jot down memories that you had with your loved one. Some people just drive all over town and listen to oldies and eat ice cream. These are all good measures to ease the shaking of the foundations of the reality of your life. I would not advise that you medicate yourself with alcohol or drugs or even antidepressants though, because all of these will run you into a brick wall and depression will be a tidal wave rising and crashing on your side.
 
Regardless of if you’ve dealt with death or not, when it happens try spending a little time reflecting and appreciating where happiness and laughing collide in a memory of your loved one. Maybe this will evoke a smile or a ‘laugh out loud’ within you. Your loved one is not gone unless you allow yourself to be affected adversely by their death; they wouldn’t want you losing control of your life as a result of their passing. They would want you to be strong, mourn respectfully, and live your life because nothing else could have been done. Since these things just come, you just have to make your life a life and when this phase comes over you, just accept it and incorporate it into your life, if applicable, and continue living.